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The converse situation, when all three pairs of vital centers are in disharmonious signs, makes for rather intriguing relationships, on the principle that oppo­sites attract. People who are quite unlike us can provide us with a fascinating complement by helping us to recognize exactly where our strengths and limitations lie. They embolden us to exhibit different facets of ourselves, to try out different roles, to experiment. We can learn a great deal from these people, not only because they present us with an alternative point of view and way of doing things, but also because in the mirror of their reactions to us we see ourselves and our aspirations standing out in bold relief. There is a sense of newness and freshness that grows out of the continual awareness of differences – ­you never know what to expect next!  As an example, consider the first meeting of Isadora Duncan and Gordon Craig:  “Here stood before me brilliant youth, beauty, genius; and, all inflamed with sudden love, I flew into his arms with all the magnetic willingness of a temperament which had for two years lain dormant, but waiting to spring forth.  Here I found an answering temperament, worthy of my metal (sic).  In him I had met the flesh of my flesh, the blood of my blood.”(5)  This type of relationship, however, is generally better for romance than for marriage, since the fact that none of the pairs of vital centers is harmonious means that the paths in life diverge sharply, and so a frustrating gap between the two people can come into being.  At every turn there are differences of approach that must be reconciled; one or the other must always give way.  Hence an exceptional amount of inner adjust­ment is incumbent on both parties in order to make the relationship work.  Each must learn to recognize when the other is more in tune with the situation at hand, and forgo their own inclinations and impulses at such times.  By the same token, each must learn to sort out their own ideas and feelings to determine where they must “draw the line” and let their own desires prevail. These relationships both bestow and require a peculiar fluidity and ability to adapt.    

When the two sun signs are harmonious, while the two moon and rising signs are disharmonious, then there is a basic similarity of outlook on life, or a sense that the two lives are heading in the same direction. These people can come back together again after years of separation and pick right up where they left off, because the essential thing is the long view:  life in its more ultimate or long-range aspects.  Friendship, therefore, seems to be the most pronounced feature of the relationship.  However, there are numerous areas of more superficial division:  the two personalities are quite distinct, and opinions are apt to differ on how things are to be done in actual practice.  Nonetheless each is willing to free the other to go their own way and do what they feel they must do to fulfill themselves.   Whether they cherish or obey is moot, but they certainly honor one another.  An example consider  John F. and Jacqueline Kennedy:  “The marriage had become, by now, little more than a matter of mutual convenience – a union of two mercurial, strong-willed, stubborn people who, like so many children of the rich, were rather used to getting their own way, and were not happy when they didn’t.  Any romantic love that might have once existed between them had long since evaporated.  …  And so a perfectly sensible business deal was struck during those first White House months.  She would supply the elegance, the charm, the class that he wanted.  And he, in turn would let her do pretty much whatever else she chose.”(6)

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