Are You Two Compatible? – VI
When only the two rising signs are disharmonious (with both sun and moon signs harmonious), then there is some source of misunderstanding or non-communication that often bogs down an otherwise smooth relationship. Each party wants to talk while the other is interrupting. They are able to see through one another quite clearly, and so they may become impatient with each other’s posturing on the one hand, and overly thin-skinned or sensitive to criticism on the other. They may try to outguess or keep one jump ahead of each other, or keep bringing up the same old divisive issues as if for the sport of contention. They allow the present moment to escape them in a welter of verbiage. They may try to force one another to live up to an impossible image. For example, after a trip to India to visit the birthplace of his idol Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr. “felt, as in India, that much of the corruption in our society stems from the desire to acquire material things – houses and land and cars. Martin would have preferred to have none of these things. He finally said to me, ‘You know, a man who dedicates himself to a cause doesn’t need a family.’ I was not hurt by this statement. I realized that it did not mean he loved me and the children less, but that he was giving his life to the Movement and felt he therefore could not do as much for his family as he might in other circumstances. He saw a conflict between duty and love … But I knew that, being the kind of man he was, Martin needed us.”(11) The inability to communicate can be very frustrating, since there is usually a profound emotional tie that binds them: a good deal of what each has to accomplish in life as an individual, the two of them can accomplish as well together. Each must learn to put aside their own train of thought and really listen to the other, permitting them their whims and peculiarities, and taking care not to tread upon their aplomb.
The foregoing descriptions of the various combinations of harmony and disharmony may appear somewhat extreme. The individual case will be more or less so, depending upon the type of relationship involved (since we tolerate different things in our intimate relations than in our casual acquaintances), and also upon the maturity of the two people. Learning how to turn obstacles into advantages is what growth is all about. In synastry, as in every department of astrology, free will is the overriding factor.
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Notes
(1) Centiloquy XXXII. J. M Ashmand, Ptolemy’s Tetrabiblos, Foulsham London 1917, page 228.
(2) For example, the principal astrological signature of sexual attraction between two people is shown when a man’s sun, Mars or Jupiter conjoins or opposes a woman’s moon or Venus. Of these cross-aspects between horoscopes, the sun-moon and Mars-Venus combinations are the most powerful sexual bell-ringers. Take up to 10° orbs of inexactitude, but only consider conjunctions and oppositions. Note that the reverse case (e.g. man’s moon or Venus conjunct or opposed to woman’s sun or Mars) is not a sexual signature – it merely indicates that the woman is the leader or initiator in the relationship.
For gay men sexual attraction is shown when one man’s sun, Mars or Jupiter conjoins or opposes the other’s sun, Mars, or Jupiter. Here the sun-Mars combination is the strongest. For lesbian women sexual attraction is shown when one woman’s moon or Venus conjoins or opposes the other woman’s moon or Venus. The moon-Venus combination is stronger than two moons or two Venus’s.
The absence of any sexual signature between two peoples’ horoscopes doesn’t necessarily deny sexual attraction, particularly if one or the other party has natal sun, Venus, or Mars in Scorpio. However, without a sexual cross-aspect there could be a problem due to one or the other person becoming bored with the sexual relationship.
Other features of relationships (apart from sexual attraction) are shown by other cross-aspects between planets – e.g. Saturn-Jupiter contacts indicate trust; Venus-Saturn or moon-Saturn aspects indicate that the delicate sensibilities of the Venus or moon person will feel hurt by the brusqueness of the Saturn person, who in turn dislikes being clung to. And so on and so forth. The cross-aspects tell little stories. They are like little scripts of karma from previous lifetimes together, which have to be acted out again in this present lifetime.
(3) Marc Edmund Jones, The Essentials of Astrological Analysis, Sabian, Stanwood WA 1970. See also Bob Makransky, “Dr. Jones’ Methodology”, Considerations XVIII:3 2003 and Bob Makransky, “The Natural Disposition”, Considerations XVIII:4 2003-4
(4) Ruth Prigozy, www.zeldafitzgerald.com/fitzgeralds/index.asp, (F. Scott Fitzgerald Society website)
(5) Isadora Duncan, My Life, Liveright, NYC 1927, p 182.
(6) Stephen Birmingham, Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis, Grosset & Dunlap, NYC
1978 p 106.
(7) Dee Presley, Dee; Billy, Rick and David Stanley, Elvis – We Love You Tender,
Delacorte, NYC 1979 p 200-01
(8) news report on WENN 6/21/2000 posted at www.imdb.com/name/nm0000404/news
(9) Lois Rodden, AstroDatabank version 2.0, 1998
(10) Betty Ford, The Times of My Life, Ballantine NYC 1978, p 229-30
(11) Coretta Scott King, My Life with Martin Luther King, Jr., Avon NYC 1969, p187